Wanted to take a minute and update you on how the adoption is going and what are prayer needs are.
First of all, we are SO BLESSED by the outpouring of love that we have received. I honestly expected at least a little bit of negativity, simply because we are doing something so out of the ordinary. Something this big and crazy tends to welcome criticism.
I have also been so HUMBLED by the outpouring of help. I hate asking for help, I really do. I knew from the beginning that by asking us to do this, God was asking us to put ourselves out there and ask for help. We are in the early stages and haven't needed a ton of help yet, but I'm already BLOWN AWAY by the love that has been showered on us. Our cinnamon roll fundraiser was the perfect example. We set up to sell at a local consignment sale. We had no idea what to expect, so we baked a bunch. We had people buy like crazy and got a few cash donations. We had friends spreading the word on Facebook and stepping up to buy lots of extra cinnamon rolls for their freezers so we didn't take home tons. We even had the owners of the sale hook us up with a local MOPS group who sold FOR US at their garage sale. Let me make sure that was clear - we had a group of people who we had NEVER MET before that day selling cinnamon rolls for us to bring our daughter home! How amazing is that? Friends have stepped up in so many ways - fundraising, spreading the word, donating, etc and we're still in the beginning. I feel like we have an army behind us, spreading the word, helping with fundraisers, walking this journey with us. It gives me such peace to know that we are surrounded by so many amazing advocates. I see a donation come in from a single mom who I KNOW can't have that much extra laying around (I was a single mom, I KNOW), and I think WOW! She has that much confidence in us, NOTHING IS GONNA STOP US! And I get that boost with every donation, every time my blog is shared, every time someone steps up and helps. God. Is. Good. That is all.
So here is where we are at: Still in the beginning. It feels like it is going slooooow. Things are moving, but not as fast as I want. The home study agency has all of our information now, but we were slowed down because we left some information off of the application and it had to be sent back to us. Twice. Ugh. I was very frustrated about that, but I am cutting myself some slack. The packet of information was HUGE and I missed 2 small lines. I have never done anything this intensive! Our HS with our last adoption was thorough, but not nearly as intense because we were adopting a child that we had custody of for the previous 2 1/2 years, it was private and local. But since I have the paperwork done and we now all know my toothpaste preference, I think we are rolling. :)
We are working on our dossier while we wait on the HS, so as soon as we get it done we can move pretty quickly. The country we are adopting from is pretty quick process, so we're looking forward to meeting our daughter within the next several months, which is a pretty exciting thought!
I'll post a financial update soon, when I've had a chance to crunch numbers, but for now I'll estimate that between a garage sale, selling cinnamon rolls, selling clothes at a consignment sale, jewelry sales and a few donations, we've reached about $1,000ish. We're SUPER excited about this, because now that our HS is going, very soon we'll be filing with USCIS, and the fee is about $900. God is good. Total expenditures are, well, significantly more than the $1,000 we've raised, but it is a SMALL price to pay for the life of a child.
Prayer: For the home study to go well & quickly, for Antoinette's health and safety while she waits, for children being left behind, for financial provision during the process. And maybe a prayer for my sanity during the process - haha!
Local friends: We will be having a garage sale later this summer. We need stuff donated. So, start saving stuff and I'll get dates set up soon. :)
Crafty friends: In August or September we're going to do an online auction with hand-crafted items and we need donations. You can do whatever you want, but it should be easy to ship. Let me know if you are interested in helping and we'll talk details.
Donations: If you would like to donate, we would appreciate donations to our YouCaring account, because we can use it to help with expenses prior to travel; and our Reece's Rainbow account is only available when we travel. BUT, donations to our Reece's Rainbow account are tax-deductible, so absolutely donate there if you want to claim the tax deduction! (Both links are on the sidebar - I LEARNED HOW TO ADD THEM! I'm almost a real blogger! Yay me!)
THANK YOU! You have no idea how much your prayers and support mean to us. They strengthen us as we walk on this long journey. On frustrating days I think about the support we have around us and think to myself. NOTHING WILL STOP US!
...If God is for us, who can be against us? Romans 8:31
Tuesday, June 3, 2014
This is a hot button topic that I would like to delve into. Often adoptive parents are asked questions like this: Why not adopt from the
U.S.? How can you go outside of the country to adopt
when there are plenty of kids in U.S. foster care that need families? This is a very complex and personal issue,
and I cannot answer for anyone else. But
I will share how and why we came to our decision.
First, you should know that we believe in orphan care for
orphans. All of them. That means those in the U.S. and those
abroad. And really, not just orphans –
children in abusive situations, in poverty, in foster care, kids who just need
adult attention, and on and on. We need
to find the needs and meet them. Children
are our future, and we need to take care of them! It is my personal belief that it is far
better to reach out and care for children than it is to attempt to reform them
later on in life when they are in trouble.
Yes, there is absolutely a need for more foster homes and adoptive
parents in the U.S. There is a need for
after school programs, mentors, family reunification programs. There is need for a lot. And I pray that if you feel a burden for
hurting children, that you will find YOUR area.
The need that YOU are called to fill, and fill it. But for us, right now, U.S. foster care or
adoption is not our place. Not right
now. I won’t say never; because that’s
up to God, but not right now.
Second, international adoption is a momentous undertaking! (You should seriously see the stack of paperwork that I have!) We have already completed one domestic adoption, and we are prepared for this. God knows that our previous adoption stretched us and now we can be stretched further, and that is what He is doing. (I also have a theory that you have to be just a *tiny* bit crazy to commit to something this big, and He knows that on the taking-on-huge-things craziness scale, we’re pretty close to the top!)
Most importantly, YES, we need to take care of OUR children AT HOME in the
U.S. If we want to consider the U.S. to be OUR area
to take care of because we live here and everywhere else to be someone else’s
problem, because it’s THEIR country. But
here’s the bottom line for us as Christians:
They are ALL God’s children! Kids in the U.S.
don’t get preference because we live here.
Those are HIS children in orphanages!
The lonely, starving, abandoned – they are ALL
His children. We have to look beyond our
own limitations and see that God cares for all of them equally. I believe that God has purposefully
orchestrated events to bring us to this point, to unite us with a child that is
thousands of miles away. I believe that
He understands what a huge leap of faith this is for us, and that is part of
the plan. But I also believe that to
God, her distance from us is of very little importance. We are talking about the Creator who spoke
our universe into existence! How big of
an obstacle is an ocean in His eyes?
Probably not very. God plans to
unite a child with our family, and the miles that we have to cross to make that
happen are the least important part of the equation.
So yes, there are many children in the
that need homes. If you feel convicted
about that, pray about opening your home to one of those children. If you are already an advocate for needy
children in the U.S.,
I applaud you. But God has called us all
to do different things. For us, right
now, God has called us to commit money we don’t have, to fly across an ocean to
a country we've never seen, and adopt a child we've never met, who has unknown
special needs, and to bring her home as our daughter. Simple, right? It is to God.
Wednesday, May 28, 2014
“For we walk by faith, not by sight” 2 Corinthians 5:7
I’m pretty sure I’ve recited that verse at least a million times a day for the last few weeks. Right now we’re walking in the dark. It’s pitch black out and we’re following a pin prick of light ahead of us. We know where we’re going, but have no idea how we’re going to get there. It’s seriously scary.
The weird thing is, for the most part I feel calm. This is not our journey – it’s God’s journey. Since it’s His journey I know that there’s nothing I can do through my own power to get to the end – He has to guide me. That’s the weird thing about walking completely blindly – you can’t help but rely on the One that is guiding you. You can’t second guess where you’re going, because you don’t know. You can’t try to change the path or take a shortcut, because you don’t know where the path is going next. All you can do is take the hand of your guide and take one step at a time. So that’s what we’re doing.
We’ve committed to this adoption even though it seems impossible. It has a price tag of over $25,000. We don’t have even close to that much money on hand and we have no idea where it’s going to come from. But God does. We’re an imperfect family, maybe the home visit won’t go well. But God chose us. We don’t know how we’re going to manage to travel for several weeks with 5 kids at home. But God will show us. We have no idea what kind of health needs our new daughter will have and whether they can be met in our rural area. But God directed us to her. We’re nervous about how exhausting life will be with 2 children with intense special needs plus 4 others. But God will strengthen us.
This adoption seems impossible. We’re not the perfect family. We’re not wealthy, our house needs work, our cars are old, and we have a million things competing for our time and energy. We have days where we’re exhausted beyond belief. We’re not the family that you imagine when you think of someone adopting internationally. And that, my friends, is EXACTLY why I think God chose us. Because if we can do this, anyone can do this. It is my prayer that someone will see us, talk to us, hear about us, and think “wow – I can do that”. That’s when lives will be saved. That is why I push forward – not just for the life of our little girl, but for the lives of the millions of other orphans that need families. Not families with tons of money and fancy houses – families with lots of love.
So we will continue to walk in the dark. And sitting here, in the beginning of the long, scary journey through the darkness, I already know one thing – this journey will forever impact the souls of our family. This journey will be the single most powerful thing we have ever done. Not because of the end result, but because of the walk. It will be life-changing because we will spend the next several months walking blindly, being led by nothing but Jesus holding our hands and leading us through the dark. We won’t be able to see the path, but if we stay focused, we will be able to feel our Savior with us every hour of every day. Yes, it will be scary. We already know that there will be bumps along the way. Maybe there will be days when we feel like we’ve wandered off the path and we’re falling into the abyss, but those days might just be the most powerful – when we fall toward the bottom but God catches us. When we are reminded that God is in control, even when it feels like He is not.
My continued prayer for the next several months is that we can continue to lean into God each step of the way and that this journey will build a stronger faith in our family. Please join us in praying daily for the adoption process, and for our daughter as she waits. Please pray for the staff as well as the orphans being left behind. Please pray for the millions of orphans throughout the world, especially those with special needs. Please pray for cultural changes to occur that would end the practice of families giving precious children up simply because of a special needs diagnosis.
“For I am the LORD your God who takes hold of your right hand and says to you, Do not fear; I will help you.” Isaiah 41:13
Thank you for following our family’s journey and praying for us. If you feel led to give financially toward the cost of our adoption, you may do so at: http://reecesrainbow.org/76200/sponsoroden
Every dime will go toward bringing our precious daughter home. Any extra funds raised will go directly to orphan care.
Wednesday, May 7, 2014
Why on earth are they adopting?
Don’t they have enough kids?
I’m sure these are the top questions on most people’s minds right now. So I’m going to go ahead and put them out there and answer them.
YES, we have enough kids! We have 5 beautiful, vibrant, wonderful kids. Two are mine from a previous marriage but 100% loved by my husband as his own. One joined our family through a temporary guardianship and we later had the joy of adopting him. Two are ours together. The 7 of us are close. As tight knit as any biological family, and I would venture to say more tight knit than many. We are strong. We've weathered challenges. We've seen God’s glory. We've cried, praised, worshiped, and conquered together. We've learned that blood and genetics do not define family – love does.
YES, we have enough kids! Our house is full, and our bank accounts not nearly as full. We work hard to keep up with the physical, financial, and emotional demands of such a big household. It is hard work and my husband and I live in a constant state of exhaustion. But it is powerful, wonderful, holy exhaustion, where we know that we have poured ourselves out daily to fulfill God’s call for us. So yes, we have enough. We have enough bills, doctor appointments, laundry, dishes, diapers, and stresses. We don’t need more. But God has asked us to add more to our lives. So we will. And we’ll gladly stay up later, work harder, and do more hard stuff in exchange for more smiles, cuddles, bedtime prayers, stories, and joy. Because it’s not just our job – it’s our calling; and the payoff is incredible.
YES, we have enough kids. We already have one more than we ever planned. But it’s not about us. It’s not about what we want, what we once dreamed for our lives, or any other agenda we once had.
It’s about obedience. God has asked us to do this. He has spent 5 years preparing us for this very assignment. We could say no. He would still love us just as much and He would forgive us if we just said “No, God, we’re tired. We’ve poured out the very last drop of ourselves and we just don’t have enough time, energy, money, etc.” Or we could say “YES!” and let Him meet every need and fill us to overflowing like He says He will. We could trust and obey. We can rest in God when we’re too tired to go on. So we will. We blindly said yes and stepped out in faith; because it’s not about us.
It’s about love. It’s about a little girl in an Eastern European orphanage with no family. It’s about a child with special needs that has been cast aside, a child with very little hope for the future simply because she is different. Yes, we have enough children. But it’s not about us, it’s about her. You see, we may have enough children, but she doesn’t have enough family. She doesn’t have enough love. She is running short on laughter, and hugs, and the pure joy of being a carefree little girl. And I just happen to know of a big, loud, boisterous family with plenty of joy, laughter, hugs, and an unending supply of love to share.
Commit to the LORD whatever you do, and he will establish your plans. Proverbs 16:3 (NIV)
We are so thankful that you are joining us for this journey. Please pray with us daily for God's will in this adoption.
If you would like to help, you may contribute to our adoption fund at:
Or make a tax-deductible donation at:
Even $5 can help us rescue this child.
Every dime will go to getting our child home, and every little bit counts.
Friday, April 25, 2014
You’re doing what!?!?
Yes, that’s right, we’re adopting. (again)
Yes, we know, that this might make us *officially* crazy, but, well, we don’t mind crazy. We like to think of it as radical. And not just any radical – radical for Christ. Weird for God. A follower, not a fan. All in. Jesus Freaks. Whatever the terminology you prefer, that’s us. Or at least, that’s what we’re trying to become. Disciples. That’s what we strive to be, but I don’t feel even close to adequate to compare ourselves to the disciples. The disciples in the bible left behind their families, their professions, and their homes. They were mocked, persecuted, and martyred. All we’re doing is bringing a little girl home. Well, first we’ll have to do a million pages of paperwork, raise $25,000, go across the world twice, and then we’ll bring her home. But bringing home a little girl hardly seems to qualify us as disciples.
Okay, she’s not just any little girl. We stumbled upon an almost 5 year old little girl with special needs in
Eastern Europe. She stole our hearts. I don’t know how to describe falling in love
with one small picture (that isn’t even recent), but we did. God spoke to our hearts and told us that she
is ours. We don’t even really know
anything about her special needs, just that she has some. But that’s okay. God knows and He chose her for us, so we will
walk in faith.
Here’s the catch. We can’t afford this. We are already raising a large family on one income. While we are financially stable, it would take us years to save the $25,000 for her adoption. But she doesn’t have that kind of time. God told us the time is now, so we jumped out in faith. We made the crazy decision to trust God and basically emptied our savings account to get the process started. Now we are committed to fundraising for the rest and trusting that God will provide. And we know He will, because He is our great provider.
We’ve come to believe that part of God’s work in this adoption is to bring together a community of people to pour out their love and rescue this little girl from life in an institution. To allow our friends and family to be part of saving a child’s life. To mobilize a community of Christians to live out their faith by caring for an orphan. So we are asking you to come along side us and help. Please pray with us. Donate if you can, but please know that it’s okay with us if you don’t. We want you to walk on this journey with us either way. We want to share with you, maybe even inspire you a little. We want to be inspired by you. But mostly, we need to feel the love and support of our friends and family as we step into the unknown and walk in faith. We have a long journey ahead – one that really will just begin when we bring her home. We will have a lifetime of medical care, educational interventions, and undoing the damage that 5 years in an institution has done. Please walk beside us on this long, but beautiful journey. As we look ahead, we are already praising God for His mercy, grace, and strength as we travel this path, and thanking Him for the blessing of this sweet child.
“For we walk by faith, not by sight” 2 Corinthians 5:7
If you would like to donate, you can do so at:
You may also make a tax-deductible donation at:
Even $5 can help us rescue this child.
**I borrowed terminology coined by the books Not A Fan, All In, Radical, and maybe some others. I highly recommend those books, as well as a few others! :-)